QUALITY TIME

What is the most beneficial way to reward your children?

Buy them a new toy? Allow them to stay up later? Let them watch a special TV show?

These may or may not have positive effects, but none of them can compare with the undivided attention of a parent.

Older children may deny that they require attention from their parents; however, it is possible to see the impact extra attention can have. With younger children, the results are often visible straight away. They respond with smiles and can be encouraged to try new things. Eventually you may notice an increase in your childโ€™s self-esteem as they grow older.

ๅ……ๅฎŸใฎๆ™‚

ๅญไพ›ใซใจใฃใฆไธ€็•ช

ๅŠฑใฟใซใชใ‚‹ใฎใฏไฝ•ใŸใ‚™ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™

ๆ–ฐใ—ใ„ใŠใ‚‚ใกใ‚ƒใ‚’่ฒทใฃใฆใ‚ใ‘ใ‚™ใ‚‹?้…ใใพใฆใ‚™่ตทใใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจ ใ‚’่ชใ‚ใ‚‹?็‰นๅˆฅใชใƒ†ใƒฌใƒ’ใ‚™็•ช็ต„ใ‚’่ฆ‹ใ•ใ›ใฆใ‚ใ‘ใ‚™ใ‚‹?

ใ“ใ†ใ—ใŸใ‚คใƒณใ‚ปใƒณใƒ†ใ‚ฃใƒ•ใ‚™ใ‹ใ‚™ๅŠนๆžœ็š„ใ‹ใจใ‚™ใ†ใ‹ใฏใ•ใฆใŠใใ€ใ„ ใ™ใ‚™ใ‚Œใ‚‚่ฆชใ‹ใ‚™ๅญไพ›ใซใ—ใฃใ‹ใ‚Š็›ฎใ‚’ๅ‘ใ‘ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใจใฏๆฏ”ใธใ‚™ใ‚ˆใ†ใ‚‚ ใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚

ๅญ ไพ›ใฏๅคงใใใชใ‚‹ใจใ€่ฆชใ‹ใ‚™่‡ชๅˆ†ใซๆณจ็›ฎใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’ๆ‹’ใ‚€ใ‹ใ‚‚ ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚ใ—ใ‹ใ—ใ€่ฆชใฎๆณจ็›ฎใฏๅฟ…ใ™ใ‚™ๅŠนๆžœใ‚’ใ‚‚ใŸใ‚‰ใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚ ๅญไพ›ใ‹ใ‚™ๅฐใ•ใ‘ใ‚Œใฏใ‚™ใ€ใใฎ็ตๆžœใฏใ‚นใƒˆใƒฌใƒผใƒˆใซ็พใ‚Œใพใ™ใ€‚ๅญ ไพ›ใฏ็ฌ‘้ก”ใ‚’่ฆ‹ใ›ใ€ๆ–ฐใ—ใ„ใ“ใจใซๆŒ‘ๆˆฆใ—ใ‚ˆใ†ใจใ™ใ‚‹ใฆใ‚™ใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚ ๅญไพ›ใ‹ใ‚™ๅคงใใใชใ‚Œใฏใ‚™ใ€ๅญไพ›ใฎ่‡ชๅฐŠๅฟƒใฎ้ซ˜ใพใ‚Šใ‹ใ‚™ๆ„Ÿใ—ใ‚™ใ‚‰ใ‚Œใ‚‹ ใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚

What is the most beneficial way to reward your children?

Buy them a new toy? Allow them to stay up later? Let them watch a special TV show?

These may or may not have positive effects, but none of them can compare with the undivided attention of a parent.

Older children may deny that they require attention from their parents; however, it is possible to see the impact extra attention can have. With younger children, the results are often visible straight away. They respond with smiles and can be encouraged to try new things. Eventually you may notice an increase in your childโ€™s self-esteem as they grow older.

Self-esteem is what we build in our children when we give them the attention they require. However, it is important to give children quality attention; just being around your child is not considered quality attention.

Letโ€™s look at some examples. A Mom takes her kids to the movies with a friend and her children. When the movie is over, the Mom and her friend discuss the movie as the kids are left on their own. Even though Mom is with her children physically, she is not there emotionally. How could it have been different? Mom and her friend could have asked the kids for their opinions on the movie. The children would then have been involved in the conversation and noticed that they were the focus of their parentโ€™s attention.

A Dad takes his son to sports practice. While watching the practice, it is tempting to socialize with other parents. But, he must be aware that as children practice, they look to see if their parent(s) are watching what they are doing and they want their parents to focus their attention on them. It is so easy to get distracted by other adults who are enjoying engaging in conversation. One way to focus your attention back to your child without being rude is to direct the attention of the other parents to their own children. While your child is not the only subject of your attention, by giving attention to your child, it will be gratifying to note the elation that you will see on his or her face. tj

ๅ……ๅฎŸใฎๆ™‚

ๅญไพ›ใซใจใฃใฆไธ€็•ช

ๅŠฑใฟใซใชใ‚‹ใฎใฏไฝ•ใŸใ‚™ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™

ๆ–ฐใ—ใ„ใŠใ‚‚ใกใ‚ƒใ‚’่ฒทใฃใฆใ‚ใ‘ใ‚™ใ‚‹?้…ใใพใฆใ‚™่ตทใใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจ ใ‚’่ชใ‚ใ‚‹?็‰นๅˆฅใชใƒ†ใƒฌใƒ’ใ‚™็•ช็ต„ใ‚’่ฆ‹ใ•ใ›ใฆใ‚ใ‘ใ‚™ใ‚‹?

ใ“ใ†ใ—ใŸใ‚คใƒณใ‚ปใƒณใƒ†ใ‚ฃใƒ•ใ‚™ใ‹ใ‚™ๅŠนๆžœ็š„ใ‹ใจใ‚™ใ†ใ‹ใฏใ•ใฆใŠใใ€ใ„ ใ™ใ‚™ใ‚Œใ‚‚่ฆชใ‹ใ‚™ๅญไพ›ใซใ—ใฃใ‹ใ‚Š็›ฎใ‚’ๅ‘ใ‘ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใจใฏๆฏ”ใธใ‚™ใ‚ˆใ†ใ‚‚ ใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚

ๅญ ไพ›ใฏๅคงใใใชใ‚‹ใจใ€่ฆชใ‹ใ‚™่‡ชๅˆ†ใซๆณจ็›ฎใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’ๆ‹’ใ‚€ใ‹ใ‚‚ ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚ใ—ใ‹ใ—ใ€่ฆชใฎๆณจ็›ฎใฏๅฟ…ใ™ใ‚™ๅŠนๆžœใ‚’ใ‚‚ใŸใ‚‰ใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚ ๅญไพ›ใ‹ใ‚™ๅฐใ•ใ‘ใ‚Œใฏใ‚™ใ€ใใฎ็ตๆžœใฏใ‚นใƒˆใƒฌใƒผใƒˆใซ็พใ‚Œใพใ™ใ€‚ๅญ ไพ›ใฏ็ฌ‘้ก”ใ‚’่ฆ‹ใ›ใ€ๆ–ฐใ—ใ„ใ“ใจใซๆŒ‘ๆˆฆใ—ใ‚ˆใ†ใจใ™ใ‚‹ใฆใ‚™ใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚ ๅญไพ›ใ‹ใ‚™ๅคงใใใชใ‚Œใฏใ‚™ใ€ๅญไพ›ใฎ่‡ชๅฐŠๅฟƒใฎ้ซ˜ใพใ‚Šใ‹ใ‚™ๆ„Ÿใ—ใ‚™ใ‚‰ใ‚Œใ‚‹ ใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚

่‡ชๅฐŠๅฟƒใฏใ€่‡ชๅˆ†ใ‹ใ‚™ๆœ›ใ‚€ๆณจ็›ฎใ‚’ไธŽใˆใ‚‰ใ‚Œใฆใฏใ—ใ‚™ใ‚ใฆๅญไพ›ใฎไธญ ใซ่Šฝ็”Ÿใˆใ‚‹ใ‚‚ใฎใฆใ‚™ใ™ใ€‚ใ“ใ“ใฆใ‚™้‡่ฆใชใฎใฏๆณจ็›ฎใฎ่ณชใฆใ‚™ใ™ใ€‚ๅ˜ ใซๅญไพ›ใฎใใฏใ‚™ใซใ„ใ‚‹ใŸใ‚™ใ‘ใฆใ‚™ใฏๅๅˆ†ใจใฏ่จ€ใˆใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚

ไพ‹ใ‚’ๆŒ™ใ’ใพใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚ๆฏ่ฆชใŒๅ‹ไบบ่ฆชๅญใจไธ€็ท’ใซๅญไพ›ใ‚’ๆ˜ ็”ปใซ ้€ฃใ‚Œใฆ่กŒใใพใ—ใŸใ€‚ๆ˜ ็”ปใŒ็ต‚ใ‚ใฃใŸๅพŒใ€ๆฏ่ฆชใŸใกใฏๆ˜ ็”ปใซ ใคใ„ใฆ่ชžใ‚Šใ€ๅญไพ›ใŸใกใฏไผš่ฉฑใ‹ใ‚‰ๅ–ใ‚Šๆฎ‹ใ•ใ‚Œใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚ๆฏ ่ฆชใฏ็‰ฉ็†็š„ใซใฏๅญไพ›ใจไธ€็ท’ใซใ„ใพใ™ใŒใ€ๆฐ—ๆŒใกใฎไธŠใงใฏ้›ข ใ‚Œใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚ใฉใ†ใ™ใ‚Œใฐ็Šถๆณใฏ้•ใฃใฆใ„ใŸใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ‹ใ€‚ๆฏ ่ฆชใŸใกใŒๅญไพ›ใซๆ˜ ็”ปใฎๆ„Ÿๆƒณใ‚’ๆฑ‚ใ‚ใฆใ„ใ‚Œใฐใ€ๅญไพ›ใŸใกใ‚‚ไผš ่ฉฑใซๅŠ ใ‚ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใ€่ฆชใฎ้–ขๅฟƒใŒ่‡ชๅˆ†ใซใ‚‚ๅ‘ใ„ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ ใจใŒๆ„Ÿใ˜ๅ–ใ‚ŒใŸใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚

็ˆถ่ฆชใŒๅญไพ›ใ‚’ใ‚นใƒใƒผใƒ„ใฎ็ทด็ฟ’ใซ้€ฃใ‚Œใฆ่กŒใใพใ—ใŸใ€‚ๅญไพ›ใŒ ็ทด็ฟ’ใ™ใ‚‹ใฎใ‚’่ฆ‹ใฆใ„ใ‚‹้–“ใ€็ˆถ่ฆชใฏไป–ใฎ่ฆชใŸใกใจใŠใ—ใ‚ƒในใ‚Š ใซ่ˆˆใ˜ใ‚‹่ช˜ๆƒ‘ใซ้ง†ใ‚‰ใ‚Œใพใ™ใ€‚ใ—ใ‹ใ—ใ€็ทด็ฟ’ไธญใฎๅญไพ›ใฏ่ฆชใŒ ่‡ชๅˆ†ใฎๅงฟใ‚’่ฆ‹ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ‹ใฉใ†ใ‹ใ‚’ๆฐ—ใซใ‹ใ‘ใ€่‡ชๅˆ†ใซ้›†ไธญใ—ใฆ ใปใ—ใ„ใจๆ€ใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’ๅฟ˜ใ‚Œใฆใฏใชใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚ไผš่ฉฑใ‚’ๆฅฝ ใ—ใ‚“ใงใ„ใ‚‹ไป–ใฎๅคงไบบใŸใกใซใคใ„ๆฐ—ใ‚’ใจใ‚‰ใ‚Œใฆใ—ใพใ„ใŒใกใง ใ™ใŒใ€ๅคฑ็คผใซใชใ‚‰ใชใ„ใ‚ˆใ†ใซ่‡ชๅˆ†ใฎๅญไพ›ใซ้–ขๅฟƒใ‚’ๆˆปใ™ใซใฏใ€ ไป–ใฎๅคงไบบใ‚‚่‡ชๅˆ†ใฎๅญไพ›ใซๆณจ็›ฎใ™ใ‚‹ใ‚ˆใ†ไป•ๅ‘ใ‘ใ‚Œใฐใ„ใ„ใฎใง ใ™ใ€‚่ฆชใฎ้–ขๅฟƒใฎๅ…จใฆใŒๅญไพ›ใซ้›†ไธญใ™ใ‚‹ใ‚ใ‘ใงใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ ใŒใ€ใ—ใฃใ‹ใ‚Š็›ฎใ‚’ๅ‘ใ‘ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใงๅญไพ›ใฎ้ก”ใŒ่ผใใ‚ˆใ†ใซใชใ‚‹ ใฎใฏๅ–œใฐใ—ใ„ใ“ใจใงใ™ใ€‚tj

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